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(1991). RUSZCZYNSKI, S. Unemployment and marriage - the psychological meaning of work. Journal of Social Work Practice, 5. No. 1, pp 19-30.
Using a psychoanalytic framework, the paper explores some of the psychological meanings and purposes which may be attached to particular work and work roles, and the psychological impact of the loss of these meanings and purposes when the work activity is lost. Particular attention is paid to the couple relationship.
(1991). CLULOW, C.F. Making, breaking and remaking marriage. In Clark, D. (ed) Marriage, domestic life and social change. Writings for Jacqueline Burgoyne (1944 - 88). London & New York: Routledge.
Taking a psychodynamic approach to couple relationships this chapter examines the ties that hold people in marriage and the public and personal implications of separation and divorce. Using the image of stepfamilies as a hybrid family form, rooted in loss, and growing in an unfavourable climate, the author examines issues for adults and children following remarriage.
(1991). CLULOW, C.F. The chronically ill child and the parents' marriage: interactive effects. British Journal of Psychotherapy, 7. No. 4, pp 331-340.
The paper describes the nature of some of the stresses on family members of chronic child illness and its uncertain course, paying particular attention to the parental couple. Through detailed consideration of one couple's experience, the internal ramifications for marriage of a child being seriously and chronically ill are examined and consideration is given to the effectiveness of anticipatory mourning and other forms of help in these circumstances.
(1991). COLMAN, W. Envy, self-esteem and the fear of separateness. British Journal of Psychotherapy, 7. No. 4, pp 356-367.
This paper takes issue with Melanie Klein's theory of primary envy. The author argues that the core of envy is a sense of having insufficient resources to exist as a viable and valuable person and is related to environmental failure. The sense of lack gives rise to a compensatory fantasy of an all-providing other who is always out of reach, against which destructive spoiling may be instigated as a defence.
(1991). CLULOW, C.F. Partners becoming parents: A question of difference. Infant Mental Health Journal, 12. No. 3, pp 255-265.
In a special edition celebrating the life of John Bowlby the paper considers why marital satisfaction may decline with the roles and responsibilities of parenthood, and pays particular attention to the problem of managing difference at personal and public levels when unconscious assumptions and conscious expectations apply pressures to merge.
(1991). RUSZCZYNSKI, S. Books reconsidered: One flesh, separate persons. British Journal of Psychiatry, 158. pp 868-870.
This essay offers a contemporary review of a text which, when published in 1976, was the first attempt in Britain to outline the theory and practice of family and marital psychotherapy. The author of the book, Robin Skynner, became a leading figure in marital, family and group psychotherapy. This essay review provides an appreciation and a critique of a now classic text.
(1991). WOODHOUSE, D. and PENGELLY, P. Anxiety and the dynamics of collaboration. Aberdeen: Aberdeen University Press. pp 277.
For practitioners and their managers, this book demonstrates how the anxieties and defences of organisations can mesh with those of their clients and patients to impede collaboration between agencies. Based on action research with doctors, health visitors, social workers, counsellors and probation officers.
(1991). CLULOW, C.F. Introduction to Stepfamilies in a changing world. London: National Stepfamily Association.
Introduction to papers emanating from a NSA conference.
(1991). CLULOW, C.F.(guest editor) Special issue on marriage and couple work. Journal of Social Work Practice, 5. No. 2.
A collection of papers about the changing social institution of marriage, the nature of partnership, and different policy and practice responses to the question of what constitutes appropriate help.
(1991). COHEN, N. Marriages interculturels: une différence-écran. Dialogue. Recherches cliniques et sociologiques sur le couple et la famille . No. 113, pp 41-48.
To marry across culture can mean to relive an experience which, in the past, was perceived to be strange and incomprehensible. Work with two couples illustrates the theme of the unconscious choice of partners based on their shared experience which is linked with feelings of exclusion and rejection.
(1992). CLULOW, C.F. in De'Ath, E. and Slater, D. (eds) Parenting threads: caring for children when couples part. London: National Stepfamily Association.
Compiled by a team of writers, this is a self-help and resource booklet aimed at parents going through the experience of separation and divorce.
(1992). CUDMORE, L. The impact of infertility on the couple relationship. In Infertility and Adoption. Eds.Reich.D. and Burnell, A Post Adoption Centre Publication.
(1992). MORGAN, M. Therapist gender and psychoanalytic couple psychotherapy. Sexual and Marital Therapy, 7. No. 2, pp 141-156.
The psychoanalytic literature on the significance of therapist gender for individual patients is reviewed and considered in relation to couple psychotherapy. Clinical examples are discussed, and the paper concludes that therapist gender in couple psychotherapy is significant, particularly in the sequence in which transference develops and key issues can be worked with; the therapeutic opportunities for the couple are maximised by the provision of a male/female pair of co-therapists.
(1992). RUSZCZYNSKI, S. Notes towards a psychoanalytic understanding of the couple relationship. Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy, 6. No. 1, pp 33-48.
This paper demonstrates how a particular orientation to contemporary psychoanalytic concepts may be useful for the understanding of a couple relationship. The unconscious forces which may attract a couple to each other and influence the nature of their interaction are outlined. The second part of the paper addresses the nature of the clinical work with a patient couple. A hypothesis is offered regarding possible diagnostic criteria for choosing whether to work with a couple presenting for couple psychotherapy employing one psychotherapist or a co-therapist pair.
(1992-3). CLULOW, C.F. Only connect. A series of columns in Family Law, 22-3.
* Only connect. 22. July, p 277. Introduction to the series, which bridges the worlds of couple therapy and family law. * Why difficult clients? 22. August, p 354. Examines the impact of change on clients' behaviour in the context of separation and divorce. * Why difficult solicitors? 22. September, p 398. Examines the impact of change on professional behaviour in the family law context. * Is it catching? 22. October, p 454 On the contagious nature of anxiety in practitioner-client relationships. * Unconscious communications. 22. November, p 502. Illustrates unconscious communications in the context of a solicitor-client relationship. * Out of bounds. 22. December, p 559. On boundaries in professional relationships. * Professional distance. January, p 39 On distance regulation in professional relationships. Linguistic dispossession. 23. February, p 91. On the use of language in the family law context. * Scene setting. 23. March, p 155. Addresses issues arising in the first meeting between solicitors and their clients. * Managing feelings. 23. April, p 242-243. On managing ambivalence and staying in role in the context of divorce work. * Decoding experience. 23. May, p 306. On the concepts of transference and countertransference in the context of the family justice system. * Containment. 23. June, p 359. On the concept of containment in the context of the family justice system. * Referral. 23. July, p 427. On the dynamics of referral in the context of the family justice system.
(1993). CLULOW, C.F. Making sense of marriage breakdown and the role of the professional. Australian Family Lawyer, 8. No. 4, pp 17-20.
(1993). CLULOW, C.F. Connections. Australian Family Lawyer, 9. No. 1, pp 22-25.
Two compilations of pieces first published in Family Law on dynamics of interaction between lawyers and their clients.
(1993). CLULOW, C.F. Marriage across frontiers: national, ethnic and religious differences in partnership. Sexual and Marital therapy, 8. No. 1, pp 81-87. and in Catholic Marriage Advisory Council Bulletin, 33. No. 129, pp 9-12.
Comprising the report on a conference of the same title the paper summarises problems of definition, the proposition that cross-cultural marriages are subversive, areas of vulnerability and potential in such partnerships, and considers how they might better be supported.
(1993). CLULOW, C.F. Impasses of divorce: which ways forward? Family and Conciliation Courts Review, 31. No. 2, pp 244-248.
Creating an environment in which children can develop with trust and confidence is a key issue for social policy makers, family practitioners and parents. Although allied by this concern, too often the three groups behave as if their interests are opposed; children can then become casualties. The process of separation and divorce creates particular opportunities and special hazards in this respect, which have enormous implications for the future well-being of individuals and communities. This report describes a model for conceptualising, in the context of divorce, how it is that potential allies can sometimes become implacable foes, and considers some ways forward.
(1993). CLULOW, C.F. (ed) Rethinking marriage: public and private perspectives. London: Karnac Books. pp 146.
A collection of papers by authorities in relevant fields examining the purposes and pitfalls of contemporary marriage from social, psychological, theological and psychotherapeutic perspectives. Chapter authors are Eileen Bertin, Paul Brown, Christopher Clulow, Warren Colman, Penny Mansfield, Susie Orbach, Martin Richards and Michael Sadgrove. With a foreword by Dr Jack Dominian.
(1993). COLMAN, W. Fidelity as a moral achievement. In Clulow, C. F. (ed) Rethinking marriage: public and private perspectives. London: Karnac Books.
This paper differentiates between fidelity as a legally imposed requirement of marriage and as a personal guarantee given by each partner of the specialness of the other. The latter requires psychological struggle to reconcile personal and social needs - a process that is defined as moral work. The conflict and reconcilement between personal and social needs is explored through four well known stories of love, marriage and infidelity: Pride and Prejudice, Brief Encounter, Jude the Obscure and Madame Bovary.
(1993). CLULOW, C.F. Rethinking marriage. In Clulow, C.F. (ed) Rethinking marriage: public and private perspectives. London: Karnac Books.
An essay on some interactions between private issues and public concerns in relation to marriage from a therapist's perspective. A summary of succeeding chapters is organised around the problem 'what is marriage for'?
(1993). CLULOW, C.F. 'Good enough' marriage. In Clulow, C.F. (ed) Rethinking marriage: public and private perspectives. London: Karnac Books.
An exploration of what is meant by healthy marriage, drawing on the work of Winnicott, Maslow and Lewis. From these psychoanalytical, humanistic and systemic perspectives marriage is conceived of as a potentially facilitating environment for human growth and development.
(1993). CLULOW, C.F. New families? Changes in society and family relationships. Sexual and Marital Therapy, 8. No. 3, pp 269-273.
A report of the meeting of the Commission on Marriage and Interpersonal Relations of the International Union of Family Organisations in Baden, Austria, May 1993.
(1993). COHEN, N., FISHER, J. and CLULOW, C.F. Predicting engagement with psychoanalytical couple psychotherapy. Sexual and Marital Therapy, 8. No. 3, pp 217-230.
One year's applications to the Tavistock Institute of Marital Studies for couple psychotherapy are analysed, along with therapist assessment reports for those couples in the sample taking up an offer of therapy, with the aim of identifying predictive factors for engagement with psychoanalytical couple psychotherapy. A positive association is found in six areas: where there was a delay in returning application forms; where couples had been married/living together for a long time; where men described their emotional state rather than argued a case; where couples engaged those reading their applications in a similar way; where there was an interactive view of the problem; and where space for reflection rather than problem solving or emotional crisis management was expected in terms of help.
1993 COLMAN, W. Celebrating the phallus. Catholic Marriage Advisory Council Bulletin, 33. No. 129, pp 16-21.
An investigation of male sexuality, focusing on the archetypal significance of the phallus as signifier of male creativity and destructiveness. The paper argues for a positive re-valuation of masculinity, distinguishing its aggressive from its destructive aspects and exploring the roots of male destructiveness in terms of maternal rejection of phallic strivings and the inability to make a positive identification with a creative father and a parental couple in creative intercourse.
(1993). RUSZCZYNSKI, S. (ed) Psychotherapy with couples: theory and practice at the Tavistock Institute of Marital Studies. London: Karnac Books. pp 236.
The theory and practice of marital psychotherapy are outlined in a selection of papers grouped in four sections, each briefly introduced by the editor. The first surveys the development of the clinical, teaching and research work of the Institute; the second offers a psychoanalytic understanding of the couple relationship, focusing on unconscious partner choice with particular reference to projective and introjective identification; part three focuses on the inevitable tension between the individuality of each partner and the partnership they aspire to, and pays attention to individuation, ambivalence and betrayal; part four focuses on clinical practice. Chapter authors are Enid Balint, Evelyn Cleavely, Warren Colman, James Fisher, Alison Lyons, Janet Mattinson and Stanley Ruszczynski. With a foreword by Dr David Scharff, Washington School of Psychiatry, USA.
(1993). COLMAN, W. Marriage as a psychological container. In Ruszczynski, S. (ed) Psychotherapy with couples. London: Karnac Books.
This paper argues that the purpose of marital therapy is to promote the capacity of the marriage to act as a psychological container for the two individuals within it. Distinctions are made between marriage as a therapeutic institution and the institution of therapy and between the task of individual therapy and that of marital therapy. The paper compares and contrasts different forms of containment and examines links with related concepts such as holding and attachment.
(1993). COLMAN, W. The individual and the couple. In Ruszczynski, S. Psychotherapy with Couples. London: Karnac Books.
Jung's concept of individuation with its stress on the creative tension of opposites is applied to one of the major oppositions in all couple relationships, that between the couple itself and the individuals within it. Although individuation refers to the development of a unique self this can only take place in the context of relationship to something other than self. Ultimately it refers to the capacity for a psychological union of opposites, symbolised as the internal couple. Various difficulties in establishing the internal marriage are considered in relation to the couple, especially the wish for fusion as an avoidance of separateness and the problem of unequal development in the two partners.
(1993). FISHER, J. The impenetrable other: ambivalence and the Oedipal conflict in work with couples. In Ruszczynski, S. (ed) Psychotherapy with couples. London: Karnac Books.
This paper explores a common dynamic in couples who are caught in a frustrating relationship which can end in hopeless despair and finally separation. It focuses on the experience of not being able to get through to an impenetrable other and explores how this is rooted in a failure to come to terms with the emotions of the three-person Oedipal conflict.
(1993) RUSZCZYNSKI, S. The theory and practice of the Tavistock Marital Studies Institute. In Ruszczynski, S. (ed) Psychotherapy With Couples. London: Karnac Books.
This chapter offers an introduction to the TMSI by outlining its theoretical and clinical work as it has developed since the inception of the Institute in 1948. As well as sketching out some of the theoretical concepts underpinning clinical work with couples, the author also refers to the various research and writing projects undertaken in the Institute.
(1993) RUSZCZYNSKI, S. Thinking about and working with couples. In Ruszczynski, S. (ed) Psychotherapy With Couples London: Karnac Books.
This chapter focuses in some detail at the therapeutic intervention offered to couples seen for psychotherapy in the Institute. The author shows how psychoanalytic theory is applied to the understanding of, and working with, the intimate adult relationships.
(1994). CLULOW, C.F. Lawyers and stress: the family connection. Legal Executive Journal. May. pp 28-29.
An exploration of anxiety generated by change in the professional world of lawyers and the personal worlds of their clients, and how they interact with each other. Argues for collaboration between legal and mental health disciplines in managing work-related stress.
(1994). CLULOW, C.F. Balancing care and control: the supervisory relationship as a focus for promoting organisational health. In Obholzer, A. and Roberts, V. (eds) The unconscious at work. London: Routledge.
Drawing on the experience of a staff supervision course for managers in the Probation Service, this chapter looks at how the supervisory relationship can act as a receiver of unconscious communications which bear upon the nature of work-specific anxieties, and also some of the individual-cum-organisational defences that are deployed to manage them. Precisely because of its location and potential the state and quality of provision made for supervision can be taken as a key indicator of organisational health in the human services.
(1994). CLULOW, C.F. Grenzubersschreitende Ehen: Nationale, Ethnische und Religiose Unterschiede in der Partnerschaft. Wege Zum Menschen. 46. No. 6, pp 376-380.
(1994). CLULOW, C.F. Obituary: Enid Balint Edmonds. Sexual and Marital therapy 9. No. 3, p 301.
(1994). COLMAN, W. Encountering the erotic spirit: love, desire and infatuation. Journal of Analytical Psychology, 39. No. 4. pp. 497-514.
This paper looks at the experience of falling in love. It shows the universality of the experience and investigates its peculiar mixture of sublime spirituality and intense bodily passion, drawing on Plato and love poetry from the Renaissance to the present. It is a unique experience which, although containing features associated with earlier phases of development such as idealisation and the longing for oneness, cannot be entirely derived from them since it is particularly associated with initiation into adult life.
(1994). RUSZCZYNSKI, S. Working with couples - a psychoanalytic perspective. Catholic Marriage Advisory Council Bulletin, 34. No. 134, pp 1-10.
Ambivalence and conflict are inescapable in any meaningful relationship. The roots of these feelings lie in the earliest intimate relationships with the parental figures, and the parents as a couple, and are likely to be re-enacted in a couple's relationship with each other.
(1994). RUSZCZYNSKI, S. Robin Skynner: 'One flesh, separate persons'. In Crown, S. and Freeman, H. (eds) The book of psychiatric books. New York: Jason Aronson.
One of a collection of over thirty-five essay-reviews which originally appeared in the 'Books reconsidered' series in the British Journal of Psychiatry (see above, 1991). A selection of passages from the text is included to show something of the nature of the book being reviewed.
(1994). RUSZCZYNSKI, S. Enactment as countertransference. Journal of the British Association of Psychotherapists. No. 27, July 1994.
The central argument of this paper is that the therapist's countertransference experience is by definition unconscious. Enactments in the transference-countertransference relationship will offer the first clues that, through the unconscious processes of projective and introjective identifications, patterns from the inner world of the patient or client are being repeated in the therapeutic encounter.
(1994). HUGHES, L. and PENGELLY, P. Who cares if the room is cold? Practicalities, projections and the trainer's authority. In Yelloly, M. and Henkel, M. (eds) Learning and teaching in social work. London: Jessica Kingsley Publications.
Trainers are often the recipients of feelings and beliefs which course participants normally experience towards 'authority' in their work place. This is heightened in contemporary conditions of rapid organisational change. The struggle to identify and understand such interactions may provide the core experience that enables learning to be transferred to the work-setting.
(1995). BALFOUR, AW Account of a study aiming to explore the experience of dementia. Psychologists' Special Interest Group in the Elderly Newsletter, 53: 15-19.
(1995). CLULOW, C.F. (ed) Women, Men and Marriage. London: Sheldon Press. pp. 168.
A collection of talks by experts on marriage in the 1990s, first delivered at the Tavistock Marital Studies Institute. Women, Men and Marriage focuses on many aspects of marriage, exploring couples' expectations of the marriage 'contract', the gap between reality and expectations, as well economics, sexuality and individuality.
(1995). CLULOW, C. Who Cares? Implications of Caring Responsibilities for Couples and Families, Sexual and Marital Therapy - 10:1 pp 63-68.
Changing patterns of family life, ageing populations, the increasing participation of women in paid employment and economic recession have, along with other factors, highlighted a key question for many countries today: who will care for dependent members of society? The assumption that women will care as part of the historical segregation of roles in marriage can no longer be taken for granted. The implications of this, as assessed by an international gathering of professionals working in the field, are reported on in this paper.
(1995). CLULOW, C. Marriage and Families in the Nineties. The Bulletin of the Catholic Marriage Advisory Council. Vol. 35. No 138 - April pp 1-11.
A survey of some of the pressures upon and opportunities for couples in contemporary society, and for those supporting them in a professional capacity. The text of a talk given on the occasion of a jubilee conference organised by the Catholic Marriage Advisory Council in Eire.
(1995). CLULOW, C. Mental Health and Planning a Pregnancy. In Thomas V. Wesson, H.Corcoran, C & Sullivan K. The Preconceptual Handbook: Support and Advice for Health Practitioners, London: West London Health Promotion Agency.
A psychological perspective on some of the pressures facing couples as they become parents, written for health practitioners working in the community.
(1995). CLULOW, C.F. Introduction: In Clulow, C.F. (ed) Women, Men and Marriage. London: Sheldon Press.
A narrative account of the confusions women and men experience at a personal level about whether or not they have a marriage and its replications at a public level. The narrative weaves together themes developed in succeeding chapters.
(1995). CLULOW, C.F. Marriage: A New Millennium? In Clulow, C. (ed) Women, Men and Marriage. London: Sheldon Press.
An examination of four processes which describe and are relevant to understanding contemporary marriage: The privatisation of marriage, the pursuit of an egalitarian dream, the decline of absolute value and the rise of relativism, and the shift from rights and responsibilities. Some elements of paradox and contradiction are identified arising from these interlocking theme
(1995). CUDMORE, L. The impact of infertility on couples. New Generation (NCT Journal)
(1995). RUSZCZYNSKI, S. My Partner, Myself. In Clulow, C. (ed) Women, Men and Marriage. London: Sheldon Press.
This paper explores the unconscious connections partners make between their earliest love relationships and the choice and nature of their intimate adult relationships.
(1995). COLMAN, W. Cross-Gender Identifications in Heterosexual Couples. British Journal of Psychotherapy, 11. No. 4, pp. 522-535.
This paper explores the differentiation between gender identity and sexual object choice through a clinical study of couples who, despite having made a heterosexual object choice, show a marked reversal of conventional gender norms. Their typical interaction constitutes a shared defence against their mutual lack of security about belonging to the gender correlated with their biological sex. Cross-gender identifications are explored in terms of Jung's concept of anima and animus possession and an aetiolocial 'profile' is suggested in which the same oedipal constellation propels girls towards masculinity but cuts boys off from it.
(1995). PENGELLY, P. Working with partners: counselling the couple and collaborating in the team. In Jennings, S. (ed) Infertility Counselling. Oxford: Blackwell Science.
Drawing on joint research with the Royal Free Hospital, this chapter shows how counselling with a couple approach can help partners bear the emotional pain of infertility and sustain the hope of a solution together, instead of these functions becoming destructively split between them. This throws light on the similar splitting which can occur between counsellor and clinician in the treatment team.
(1995). PENGELLY, P. INGLIS, M. and CUDMORE, L. Infertility: couples' experiences and the use of counselling in treatment centres. In Psychodynamic Counselling, 1, No. 4, pp. 507-524.
Infertility can have profound effects on couples, who may spend years in an increasingly stressful quest for conception; by law, counselling must be offered to those undergoing licensed treatments. This study found that such couples relied on their own partnership as their main resource for managing stress.
(1995) RUSZCZYNSKI, S. and FISHER, J. (eds)Intrusiveness and Intimacy in the Couple. London: Karnac Books.
This collection of papers considers the issue which lies at the heart of the predicament of human relating, namely that of the capacity for intimacy. Exploring the concepts of projective and introjective identification, the authors differentiate between the desire for closeness as an expression of concern for a separate other and the wish for intimacy as an effort to control the other. With a Foreword by Dr Ronald Britton and a discussion interview between Dr Donald Meltzer and James Fisher, the book contains further chapters from Giovanna di Ceglie, Warren Colman, James Fisher, Mary Morgan and Stanley Ruszczynski.
(1995). COLMAN, W.Gesture and Recognition: An Alternative Model to Projective Identification as a Basis for Couple Relationships. In Ruszczynski, S. and Fisher J. (eds) Intrusiveness and Intimacy in the Couple.
This paper argues for the restriction of the term projective identification to defensive processes subsequent to early communications between mother and infant which take place prior to the establishment of ego boundaries. These processes are better understood in terms of Winnicott's notion of the mother's recognition of the infant's gesture. In normal development this experience develops into a capacity for fluid ego boundaries that enable identification with others while maintaining a sense of a distinct personal identity. Couples who do not have this capacity feel continually intruded on by each other's attempts to have their own gestures recognised and by the evacuative projection that is required against non-recognition by the other.
(1995). FISHER, J. Identity and Intimacy in the Couple: Three Kinds of Identification. In Ruszczynski, S. and Fisher, J. (eds) Intrusiveness and Intimacy in the Couple. London: Karnac Books.
In this paper intimacy is considered from the point of view of processes of three fundamental kinds of identification which are linked with three different ways of being intimate. From this perspective the capacity for identification is developmental and thus there is a corresponding developing capacity for mature intimacy.
(1995). FISHER, J. Co-editor with Ruszczynski, S. Intrusiveness and Intimacy in the Couple. London. Karnac Books.
(1995). FISHER, J. with RUSZCZYNSKI, S. Introduction in Ruszczynski, S and Fisher, J (eds) Intrusiveness and Intimacy in the Couple. London. Karnac Books.
(1995). FISHER, J. In Discussion with Donald Meltzer. In Ruszczynski, S. and Fisher, J. (eds) Intrusiveness and Intimacy in the Couple. London. Karnac Books.
(1995). MORGAN, M. The Projective Gridlock: A Form of Projective Identification in Couple Relationships. In Ruszczynski, S. and Fisher, J. (eds) Intrusiveness and Intimacy in the Couple. London: Karnac Books.
In this chapter the term 'projective gridlock' is used to describe the kind of couple relationship in which the couple have a problem in feeling psychically separate and different from each other. The way projective identification is used to create this kind of relationship is explored. It is suggested that a different kind of 'unconscious choice of partner' is made, than that usually understood. Clinical material is presented and technical issues considered.
(1995). RUSZCZYNSKI, S. Narcissistic Object Relating. In Ruszczynski, S. and Fisher, J. (eds) Intrusiveness and Intimacy in the Couple. London: Karnac Books.
This paper argues that narcissism and narcissistic object relations should not be considered to only delineate more disturbed ways of relating but as likely to inform aspects of all relationships at different times and to a greater or lesser extent.
(1995). RUSZCZYNSKI, S. Between Narcissistic and More Mature Object Relating: Narcissism and the Couple. In Cooper, J. and Maxwell, H. (eds) Narcissistic Wounds: Clinical Perspectives. Whurr Publishers.
This paper explores the thesis that marital relationships are likely to contain within them a constant movement between more mature ways of relating and less mature, more narcissistic interactions.
(1995). RUSZCZYNSKI, S. From Narcissistic to Mature Object Relating: Narcissism and the Couple. In Cooper, J. and Maxwell, H. (eds) Narcissistic Wounds: Clinical Perspectives. London: Whurr Publishers.
(1995). VINCENT, C. Consulting to Divorcing Couples. Family Law, Dec 1995, Vol 25 pp 678-681.
This article describes a small scale pilot project looking at the nature of the problems presented to and the dynamics within consultations offered to individuals and couples who had an explicit divorce related problem. The consultants identified two frequently encountered presentations. The first was what might be called an excessively paranoid interaction when couples would be fighting each other over some aspect of the divorce process, very often, the children. The paper describes how excessive splitting and projection characterises these cases and how idealisation and/or denigration enters the transference to the consultant. The second type of case can be described as using a depressive defence to ward off destructive anxiety, most commonly encountered by individual clients, unable or hesitant to proceed with divorce for fear of the destructive consequences to the children involved. These presentations seemed to call forth a wish for the consultant to offer a magical solution to get round the feared destructive outcome.
(1995). VINCENT, C. Love in the Countertransference. In Bulletin of Society of Psychoanalytical Marital Psychotherapy. May 1995 No. 2 pp 4-10.
This article suggests that counter-transference is experienced as a combination of confused thoughts, actions and bodily states which may become manifest in both the consulting room and on its fringes. Effective shifts in therapy happen when those confused states are understood and acted upon so producing a gradual release from the grip of powerful unconscious processes. Clinical examples from couple work are given.
(1995). VINCENT. C. Children Living with Domestic Violence: Putting Mens' Abuse of Women on the Child Care Agenda by Mullender. A. & Morley. R. London: Whiting & Birch, 1995. In: Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry 1996, Vol 36. No. 1.